Ask yourself these questions first: 6. Wasn't really my choice it ended but there was a lot of history there and we both made mistakes. His marriege was not based on love but more of a need for sex as he put it. Let him go. Sadly .. a friends brother did something similar. I was once in a relationship with someone who has two kids. Does any of this make sense if you were truly his girlfriend and she were an ex? they are at the point where its time to pick schools and he is trying to get it taken care of (and include me since we may have his daugter primarily in the fall) but ive never met bm and dont care to. He says it was a mistake, and he loves both me, but he has to be with her because she is carrying his child. I literally cry everyday . Whether or not he is married to her, YOU are his second choice, she and the baby take priority here. It may sound petty, but he made me mad one day and I told her, and of course, she believed him when he denied it . I'm feeling lost here with all these responses. If a guy got married in a church white wedding whole nine yards had children there's no way I would ever go anywhere near that guy! Hey everyone I am confused and I like for someone guy or Girl to give me feedback please I will try to be brief but it will be hard. He will untill he doesnt anymore. I wish I was smart enough to leave when I could without having any drama or genetic attachments. girls that go with married guys are looking for trouble, and then shocked when they find it! If he has the resources to buy her an apartment he certainly has the resources to put her up in hotel for awhile. My daughter is almost 2 1/2 and calls her aunt "Uncle Meghan," and everyone thinks it's hilarious. The mother of his son tends to call at the worst times, and even sends him messages late at night on occasion. Some men would like to strangle their baby momma. Your email address will not be published. Sometimes it makes me think something is wrong with me because you can do so much for someone and still they do you wrong . he will flirt with me and sometimes calls me baby My boyfriend has 2 baby mommas! Lmao ok that makes sense. So, I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a guy who has a child. i think i made the right choice. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Long story short, he put her back at arms length once the baby came, and she tried to kill herself a couple of times. I of course love him and I can't help it. HE TOLD ME THEIR RELATIONSHIP ENDED LONG TIME AGO? Regardless of how long his last relationship with his ex or his baby mama lasted, your boyfriend is supposed to make his kid and you the priority over his baby momma. Anyone that talks about his ex ( negative or positive) still has feelings invested in the ex. To be stranded during your first pregnancy, financially reliant on this asshole, emotional, hormonal and to be left for dead could maybe make a person slightly insane. our son is a month now but we.broke up Aug 17 and.didnt stop having sex until October while he was with his ex girlfriend/new fiancee..he left me for his ex..now after.we had our son we.doing so parenting he wants.to have sex. My baby mama cheated. Apparently he travels a lot working, leaving little time for him to spend with his son. He's the one to always initiate, so I don't even feel bad. You could really end up completely hurting a person dating them halfheartedly. I'm the blueprint. The reality is you can do better. he knew this and thought that if he got me pregnant i would somehow magically want to be with him when in fact it made matters worse. I call my kids little love, baby, buddy, doll, honey, etc. I agree . Today we talk to two women to hear about their crazy baby mama stories -- women who have been manipulated, schemed, and plotted against simply . No matter what, the communication must stay open. I have casual sex with her sometimes though. I don't need anything from him but him. Why you think I'm answering his phone?" As a woman who didn't want a child, yet you are sleeping with random men-you had the choice of birth control OR not to sleep with a man you werent in a committed relationship with. Do you not read between the lines. I just have on question can my spouse has kids from a previous relationship( has to Baby mama's ) and they call him he hold conversations with them I don't know if it's about the kids because he will say things like yea she called me earlier today talking about this and that but if it was my daughter father calling me it's a problem but you can hold full blown conversations with both you bm's not to mention his 11 yrs older then me at times I don't know what to do or say to him without sounding childish or ridiculous but I hate the feeling that he's doing things behind myou back. Call him immature, call him a boy, call him selfish and needy or a narcissist. He wants to keep you locked down. I have had so many excuses for him mistreating me. cuz u know u have to deal with the drama that his baby mama will cuz. Put your panties on and lay down the law. I am having the same issue with my bf, where he is hiding everything from me, saying he loves me but then turning around and telling her he misses her etc. When considering what his body language is telling you it is important to look for a number of different signs in his body language. Having baby after baby in a fatherless household will keep a poor woman poor. He is actually saying you are "his girl". Now, same as you I take full responsibility, for my actions as well. amateur, big ass, big cock, big tits, ass. If you treat a guy like hes a piece of shit hes going to act like one. The truth is, there is no way to ever truly know the heart of a man. Hell I even take care of the 2 kids she had wit my alleged friend! I haven't met my ex's significant other and it's been almost if not 5 years. If he is texting her and talking to her about things other than the child I personally would not be in a relationship with him. But he makes it like it's nothing. Just like he posted a status saying I'm going to sleep and she'll comment yea you better go to bed. But it's weird, when he calls me by my name, I think he's mad at me LOL. I wasn't a great boyfriend for 6 yrs and then we had a child. She needs to move on.. I'm confused and hurt and in love. Bro, I understand what you mean. **** your feelings. Poor women having baby after baby in fatherless households tends to perpetuate poverty for the women AND her kids. He never stopped texting me and finally he told me he wanted to work things out and blah, blah I shouldve never listen to that bs again because I got pregnant! If anything, it's like he is seeing you more superficially beautiful than authentically if you catch my drift. True. When I first met him he had a daughter , and was living with a female other than his daughters mother. So you have no right to judge them on that. It's just normal to me. But he says the love he has for me has been gone but I still want to be together. If she tries to use the child against him, there are legal steps he can take. And stupid me did everything she asked. No. I'm basically in the same situation. Hes showing that hes serious about you and sees you as being in his future. Most of the time when a guy calls you Mama it is coming from a romantic place. He admits to getting me pregnant on purpose, thinking we were going to be together. Do I act crazy? I know t's an old post but I guess you definitely did not feel secure in your relationship. It was a hot mess but I made sure he heard my take on all this because he barely spend s time with his kids and I dont nag him about it kids will learn one way or the other who their parent is down the line but Im just so fed up I dont know if all this has to do with the stupidness that happen because if it does its so ridicuous all because hes married. These girls he's messing with hate the fact that I'm around him , they don't even want to think about me and him even going out for our daughter . I dont bother him I do everything for my son .. and she never contacted me about what happened almost like she dislikes the baby because he cheated with me thats his story and she chose to believe that, he always tried to sleep with me, when his out of town for work hes constantly calling me on FaceTime I chose not to answer and entertained him, I want you to do more for my son not flirting with me! Now recently we were at the mall the kids him and I and someone who knows his wife saw us and told her. 6 years ago. Can a 40 year old woman date a 23 year old guy? 2. I feel you on all that. He told me that he will tell her about us but just not right now. We were engaged and everything, so surely I don't deserve that title. My sons angry but that is his father and we all do what we feel is best at the time. But everytime he goes to see her, im blocked and she thinks theyre in love. U see i have a thing. Nope, I can't stand my ex-husband lol..I just let him talk to his girls and that's about it..I could careless about him. Fast fwd hes married still hes out of jail and it took me a good 6 months before I came face to face with him. The same goes for texting her. Maybe it was just a nickname without importance. If you have been dating him for a while then the reason that he calls you mama could be that he thinks that you are his girlfriend. Thats a huge ass grey area because if you had love for your ex just because, he wouldnt date you. @mossgard. Last month i had a wake up call and had to just end it after his child's 3rd bday. I mean it's obvious to me, he's using you both. Mami . And if it's the other way around then I definitely wouldn't be worried about it bc if they still wanted your current bf/gf then they wouldn't have left them! Hey , I'm female currently dealing with a sitution with a guy I knew for about three years. Or, if you do or say things that make him distrustful of you, if he knows too much about you, how you move, stuff like that. Its essential that the boyfriend, who is in the center of this situation, make it clear to his childs mother what is appropriate, that hes in a committed relationship with you, and that he should only be contacted when it has to do with the child they share. He introduced her as his fiancee. That's life things happen people make mistakes. Trust your instincts. When he decided to come back he asked to send him money and I did and he was back the same day . He has a new woman and I Dnt interference am happy for him, me I haven't found mmthere right yet, and I'd never cheat or go back with my bby daddy as I look at him as a friend now father of my child nothing more, the thoughts iof ever having a intimate relationship sickens me. Always try to have some patience and compassion as it's not an easy situation for the man to be in. Moved on. Between the two of them they are always arguing or in some fight every few days. Sometimes he would go out with them while I'm at home with our daughter and won't come back till 6 in the morning. Well when your boyfriend calls you "baby girl" it is just basically a pet name. I have no attraction nor care about my daughters mother. 1 in his romantic life, which doesnt seem to be the case right now. I know right!! We were in an 18yr relationship which eventually ended last year. It's actually about his baby's mama and his relationship with her. I really loved him and thought what we had was special. thanks for replying with that comment because i am in a situation where my current bf has a baby mother who they talk everyday and i didnt know if it was right to stop them because i know she asks about the son. My boyfriend left me for his baby mama, now he wants me back. He may share intimate details about his past, his family life, and his fears. Latest Boyfriend Calls Me Mommy updates. Er no. What to do when u r confronted by your boyfriend's baby mama Boyfriend who won't be a man. The thing is I don't want his money and I know he needs to be held accountable but honestly if he doesn't want part of his daughter life he can go. Are you sure they are not married? He had a girlfriend here in the UK, but his fiance was back home, awaiting immigration stuff. Anyway he was hiding her they where going out to dinner together and the kids and I noticed the biggest diff when he was talking to her on a daily and he started doing way more then he ever did for them he ain't even do more for the other two he had with other ppl. - yup! My boyfriend cheated on me with his baby mama and now she is pregnant but I still love him HELP!! I still wanna be with her. I agree "**** my babies moma that b>> got drama". I always act like I don't hear him. Ur allowing him to treat u that way. Boyfriend talks about his baby mama EVERY DAY. His bm hates me and always calls me a **** claiming she's dating him anytime we talk. But now my daughter with him is soon to be seven years old. We have kids here people. Talked to him later, "Is this like our engagement or? Well she sure did drop the tea , I end up asking him , and he never denied it , but he never said anything either. Be it though I was in a relationship myself at the time with my other two children father. Girls that go with so called divorced guys make me sick their as **** as a brick and its embarrassing! Whenever you get called mom, guy's are insinuating that you're treating them like their mom does. How to react to my man going to his baby mamas house all the time? I know I try but the shit she says sounds believable..they were together for 8 year there son is 3 I think deep down he still has feelings for her (even tho he talks bad about her ) and now we have a kid together..I think it's the same thing all over again. Again, it would be helpful to consider if he was showing numerous signs of attraction. But still, he tries to ask me to hook up during exchanges with our kids. In the end, our relationship suffered because I allowed too much lee-way. To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. To have my daughter call my name and know that I'm only a few rooms away. I was in a position where I supported him and always made sure he was there for them. That makes you the side chick. Been with my guy for two years and still never met his BM. He's Making It Clear He Wants Children with You. We were lying in bed cuddling and he was asleep when he mumbled the name of another woman. He's married and even if he said he's not she's now living in this country with him. bigles2000. The soundtrack album for the show is a combination of both original songs by the characters in the show, songs by popular R&B music artists such as Alicia Keys, India.Arie, and Solange & Destiny's Child (who perform the theme song), and classic soul music from artists such as Aretha Franklin and the O'Jays.. Track listing "The Proud Family Theme Song" - Solange & Destiny's Child Hearts and Lattes. I call my boyfriend baby, babe, handsome, sunshine, and my universe. How do you deal with picking schools and the bigger decisions when it comes to your child? Not sure what he has told her about me and it doesnt matter given that I have never met her and he's sending me messages about wanting to get back together behind her back as I'm sure she would not be ok with that. She bareycan keep a job so Im wondering if he takes care of her in addition to paying child support. No man can trap you into being pregnant. If the relationship was toxic then this is how it can affect you. He doesn't care about upsetting YOU, but God forbid SHE ever gets upset. This happened the last time we split as well ? Dear Carolyn: My husband has a child by his ex-girlfriend. 11. A lot of men find that Mama is a better alternative to nicknames like Baby, Babe, or Sweetie. Because men know how men think, and if theres any sliver of a connection left between you and youre bd then he dont want that shit compromising what he has. I made sure that all of her needs are met. It looked my ex even more for me to not even acknowledge his attempts. I was fine, but found out I was pregnant. I'll just find somebody else to have my son." "One is just for presentation, the other is just for fun." Your better off alone! Of course, its not the only way to show that hes committed to you, but its a good start! I tell him, "Either call me my name, M's momma, or just don't say shit at all. But I doubt he does because he is married. I jst never had a woman that I bonded with like that!! My bf don't want to talk about his child mother Everytime I try to bring up something he shut it done. She uses my kid against me one minute and keeps him while shes ****ing with different guys but then tells me how.much she loves me . My boyfriend and I've been together for a year now, I dnt have any problem with him having kids. And all of a sudden I stopped carrying as much as I use to it was a time even the though of him looking at someone else would hurt me I went to the extent to tell his baby moms when she sent him a video of her outfit one night for a party we were having I told heim, I don't know why your treating her like she ain't shit she birth your child you should do nothing but get along with her for the sake of your child, He is soo right. To lift her self up financially so she could leave me. By continuing to use this site, you agree to our updated Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. Now he goes out at night with this girl and in his phone talking to 3 more . Miss Lucy had a baby And she named him Tiny Tim. Sorry, but I would not tolerate this. If they aren't married, it's possible he brought her and the child here with the intention to marry her. Your boyfriend will probably feel the same way. Perhaps he wants to mostly keep his kids separate from his romantic life, or he is taking slower to blend his relationship with his home life. Two months later, he left and tried to get back with me because we were moving away. If that was so you wouldn't be here asking for advise. Wasn't even going to go back to my ex before him but I guess that was his way to keep me tied down. I ignored her text and sent him an email with the screenshot of her text and asked if he could kindly ask her not to text me. Now when a guy says another girl is "cool by me" he is saying that she is a cool chick, he is cool with that girl, she is alright.Not necessarily that he is attracted to her or likes her. Not good. But you allow him to cheat with and you also allow him to on you with his woman (ex or wife or other girl friend he had sex with to produce his son) This is a wake up call for you to consider what you want? But she had issues and would call all the time, didn't have any "friends", and had a hard life and slowly they became friends which I was against because I knew she wanted to be with him. If I choose to deal with himnever his decision. If he called you mama in front of people then it would either be the case that he naturally says it or that he was showing more overt attraction for you. For some, yes, maybe they didn't want the relationship to end and the break wasn't their choice. I see a picture of him , her and his daughter cutting a babyshoer cake to celebrate a baby . All the best beautiful mothers . I've tried to reach out to her personally but she' doesn't seem to like me or goes and tells my bf that I've tried to contact her. "Right now yea. Spanish Terms of Endearment for Male Lover. I just got done dating a chick who would be pissed with her baby daddy cause he always kept tabs on her and shit. He calls and says, "It's me." When your relationship starts to develop a comfortable routine, chances are he'll call you and say, "Hi, it's me." When this happens, he's sending a message through verbal intimacy that your relationship is going in the right direction and he's feeling warm and fuzzy about you. Both of my kids have gone through the same as yours, and I cemented the fact that my name was not "Mommy" by jokingly saying, "I-AIN'T-CHE-MAMA!" Once a man has territory with a vagina he will always come back to his property. wow you really need to chill out because no body is a worthless. Find a great single dude, forget about this dude, even if the sex was out of this world, use logic when picking your men, the emotional shit is what has you in pain, the logic told you to leave. And guess what? Six years later he met me and now we are married . I'm no longer in love with him and feel like an additional person when I'm with him and his childplus his baby's mother would call in occasionally (which, really was to check in on her son) but i just didn't like it. My bf dated his BM for 14 years and they had three kids together. Yeap! I will always love my baby mama. They were both grown already but it still caused issues. And, if you dont like him using it as your pet name, you should also speak up and say something and Im sure hell stop. Im asking because my bf has a child and the bm comes with all sorts of drama. I'm trying to move on, but its hard. Depending on how the relationship ended you can still be great friends, both involved parents, both civil enough to talk about kids issues, or still friends enough to have a quick chat once in a while, but that doesn't mean you still love her or want her back. She's been beating him for something like 8 years now. Women can be evil when it comes to the heart. He dropped off pampers later that day and while intoxicated, attacked me because I filed for child support that day and I did not want to keep the baby. So what, am I not supposed to answer?. He said, "You don't want to keep it no way. He also told me at the beginning of February that he didn't want to have another kid, which was a deal breaker for me when we started dating because he knew I wanted more, but that he couldn't take care of the ones he has so this was why he changed his mind. I go forward not backwards! There's nothing to be confused about, let it go and except that he is married! document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); My Boyfriend Calls Me His Baby Mama Is This Normal? When he is home he barley spends time with my son. That dont make my bm a side chick when im telling whoever im talking to that she comes 1st. They like ages between 21-25. Same. I always give him the benefit of the doubt because i want to trust him but is he really loyal to me? Another less likely option is that it is a new term to him and he didn't quite know what it meant, and thought it was like "baby girl". the cop out story only works on idiots. Its been almost 3yrs and i still havent met my boyfriends BM. For others, it's a deep hatred or a lasting love. I don't wish it would've worked out. There seems to be this attitude of "men have needswhat do you expectfor him to be a monk for a year." Hes not a bad guy to be honest but something is off. Its only gonna be drama. Seeing as there are a number of reasons why a guy might call you mama it is important to consider the body language signals that he showed and the context of how he said it. I don't know if you are talking to me but I didn't say anything that wasn't true. He began cheating. Constantly brings up his BM on random conversations but doesn't get why I get upset. He's married for better/worse, in sickness/health till death due you part! What can I do to fix it ? I never loved my kids father never will i wanted out of the relationship because i realized he just wasnt the person i wanted to share my life or love with. U have to know the back atory in order to understand the emotion behind people and their relationships with the child's other parent. Back in January he moved out of the household , so things for us , became real better. I still loved her and had done for the 2 years we have been apart that was until i got her a mobile from work and changed her phone data over to another mobile.i found hook up messages from locals today. No, I think some men, can NOT stop stringing alone there baby momma. We literally were the same person!! I have to make up in my mind that Im not dealing with his drama. If he doesnt get why this needs to happen, it could be a sign something deeper is going on that hes trying to hide. I love him and deep down I have a feeling that maybe we will be together in the future.

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